We watch the movie on Saturday afternoon, even till today my boys are still talking about it and asking questions about it, so it means I never regretted to bring them in for this movie = The Transformers: revenge of the fallen.

Initially we wanted to watch it at 1pm which I think is the best time for them as they were not too exhausted yet. However when we got there (1Borneo), all seats almost taken, just left those with single seat. So we moved forward our viewing time to 4pm. That gave us ample time to go over some lightnings design, carpet and laminating floor for the house. But by the time we went back to 1Borneo, it was almost 4pm, so we had to rush, that include some toilet time for us all.

A few warnings has been given before the movie started, as in “be quiet”, “no question ask during the movie”, “sit on your chair properly”, etc. And I prayed hard for not having those awkward moment like screaming and talking loudly. Unfortunately all these warning were only effective on the first half an hour of the show. The rest was follow by “shs.. ask later, ok?” or I’ll have to answer their questions in the simplest form ever, else they’ll not stop asking especially little Mervin.

Anyway, it was a good movie, what more when my boys both love it! I bet they’ll look forward for another movie session with mommy and daddy.

Monday, 15th Jun, the day that Calvin got home from school due to Chicken pox. The day where I have 3 missed call from his school. The day where I have to take leave ‘cos I need to bring Calvin to see pediatrician. Fortunately he has been a good boy so far whom didn’t scratch those spots.

I’ve been putting on calamine lotion on him and he even tried to apply it himself yesterday. I pity him ‘cos he has been staying at home for 2 weeks without mommy bringing him anywhere during weekdays and now he has to continue his boring days at home without having the chance to meet up with his classmates. I bet he is really bored and have been trying all his mean to find some entertainment.

Now he wanted me to get chewing gum for him! Yes, he has been trying to figure out how to make bubble from it.

Children are just curios kiddo who thinks that everyone are like them, love to play and would listen to them. To them looking for friends are just natural things to do, they won’t understand there are time limitation, adult intervention and sometimes certain situation that forbid them to do just that.

It so happened that Calvin wanted to look for the neighboring kids to play with, he wanted to visit them. As a persistent kid, he kept on asking for it in m hy in-laws’ house. Little does he knows there are story behind the whole thing of not letting him visit the kids next door. Little does he understand about how the adults prefer things to be done. Little does he knows that this provoke my MIL and got angry with him. Little does he know that he got into trouble just because he wanted to make new friends.

He got punished for being just that plus staring at grandma when she said he can’t go out. He has to kneel on rough surface just in front of the house, hold his ears with crossed arms. He said when Ah Mah was scolding him louder and louder, he got scared and started to cry. When I ask does he knows why Ah Mah punished him, he doesn’t even have a clue! That is the sad part for me. Without understanding why he was being punished, means the message didn’t really got sent through to him. No matter how painful the experience is if he doesn’t understand the whole point of it, it just doesn’t work and it will even make it worst. Another sad part was I believe my MIL punished him when she was angry with him. This will just sent the wrong message across to little Calvin.

After that incident, I felt so sorry for him, I regretted that I’ve sent him over so that they can spend some time with him. Calvin even got little Mer to follow him that day just so that he has company. I wish I have taken my day off to be with them during this school holiday. I wish I can bring them out more often and have more friends that they can look for. I wish my in-laws understand they way how I communicate with them. I wish..

I just hope my boys are not the cause of any fight. I hope my boys are kind hearted. I hope my boys are not violent. I also hope that my boys grow as happy kids, always.

“Mommy, I want to have small chick as pet.”

That’s what Calvin told me last night after I discovered that he took out an egg from the fridge and wanted to put it under his bed so that it will hatch. He even tried to put it just outside in the dining table covered with a plastic bottle.

This time I’m clever, I didn’t say no straight away. As I know if I do that, I’ll get a rebellious respond from him. So, I started off by explaining to him how and what kind of eggs will hatch then I started to ask him some questions on how he is going to take care of the small chick, like what if it poo, ‘cos it doesn’t talk like us. Does the poo smelly? Would he want to keep it near him after it has poo-poo? Isn’t it lonely to be kept inside a box? And things like that.

He got some clever answers for that. At first he said he’ll keep it in a box with newspapers, so that he can throw away the newspapers after it has poo. And he’ll keep more than one chick so that it will not feel lonely. *LOL*

After that I asked him if he’ll understand what the small chick want? And if he will eat the chick when it has grown up? Terrible idea to him, huh?

Then I made a joke with him by using chick’s sound and communicate with him, we ended up laughing on my strange way of “talking”. But I’m glad that finally he settle down and didn’t ask to have chick as pet anymore. Thinking of how to communicate and listen to his request require lots of energy to me, but it is worth it.

Last night I’ve also tried not to use the spank to threaten my two boys especially when they were playing so rough. Instead I just separate them and tell them to stop. As for this morning, I walked out after not getting Calvin’s respond to change himself. Then he got so regretted in not listening and got upset when I said he’ll have to get change himself. Though later I still help him but at least I think he is learning that mommy won’t tolerate if he is not listening.

Yup, my two boys are still my so call diet pill that got me thinking of a better way to communicate with them and also at the same time the right way to discipline them, ‘cos by thinking itself already used up a lot of my energy *LOL*.

Other than what Calvin was asking about keeping small chick, he wanted to have dog and cat too. Mervin joined in the fun and said that he wanted to keep fish or turtle. This I answer them to wait till mommy’s house is ready, hopefully they got too occupy at that time and forget about their pet idea *wink*.

We had a great time on Saturday. Been to a birthday party of a charming 4-year-old who speaks in “rojak” using English and Hakka. The boys had a great time making new friends and catching up with those previously met. I myself had enjoy good food and fun time with my classmate.

Yes, I knew Lucy since my Form six and we had been great friends ever since. Oh, this wasn’t her boys’ birthday, it was her sister’s son. Calvin and Mervin had met Lucy’s daughters before and they have been missing each other since, probably due to the small circle of friends that they have. My boys as well, ‘cos I seldom bring them out to meet friends except their cousins. I hope their social skills are still okay.

Ever since I’m in this house-renovating-mind, I’ve started to notices details of houses down to what kind of socket they use! The first thing I notice when stepping into their detached house was how big and how nice the stairs case look. That was when I haven’t even went upstairs to check out their floor yet! The next thing I noticed was that their kitchen counter is way too low for me, then I got a confirmation on thoughts from Lucy’s sister as we are about the same height. It actually caused back pain!

Next was their furniture. There were two sets of living room furniture as they have two separate living rooms, one with plasma TV (definitely going to get one!) plus a massage chair. Calvin loves the massage chair and have even thick face enough to request to have a go on it.

The highlight of the night surely was the present opening time. Buoy the birthday-boy was so excited on what he was getting and I got a big bear hug from him after he saw what we’ve got for him -a remote control racer. The thing is after this celebration, Mervin was asking when can he have a birthday party. Now.. where can I have that since I don’t have a house ready yet.

Last night after I left the boys in the room while I prepare their milk, they got into a fight which I heard Mervin calling for me, after I’ve questioned who started it off…

Mervin: Mommy, Ko-Ko (big brother) hit me just now, can I use your spank to spank him?
Me: No, you can’t!
Mervin: Why not? I want to use your spank.
Me: No, the spank is not for you to use.
Mervin: Why not? He hit me just now.
Me: No!

After that I have to explain to him that spanking is a punishment that I use on disciplining them. It is not to use to simply hit anyone.
I keep on getting his assurance that on whether he likes it if someone hit him. I have to explain the difference between me using the spank and someone hitting them.
Along the way, I was wondering if using spank is the right way in disciplining them.

When I asked who started off the fight. It was Mervin who showed his dislike upon his big brother – Calvin. Calvin’s natural reaction was to fight back with words (at first), but that even trigger Mervin more. After that I think everyone can guess what happened.

The thing is even after I told Calvin to stop, he didn’t respond to what I said, later he said he didn’t hear me. What a disappointment from me to learn that my elder boy can’t hear what I said, especially on what I’ve instructed him to do.

The truth is, he seldom hears me especially if I’ve instructed him to do certain things, or I wanted him to follow certain orders of mine. A few that I can think of now is getting dress, stop running, stop hitting the little brother, finish his food and keeping his toys away.

When friends asked how my boys are doing, my first reaction is”they always fight”. Probably my mind is set on remembering the bad that they did rather than the good that they did. What good have they done? Well, to think of a few:
1.Calvin teaches the little brother in playing certain toys, but that annoyed Mervin ‘cos he wanted to do it his way, neetie-gritty things down on how to stick the stickers!
2.They ride their bikes together which normally seems fine until one of them wanted the other to follow whatever they want.
3.They share the same love of TV program – Ultramantiga, till they started to share with me what they have seen at the same time.
Basically my days are filled with time consumed by them in making sure they don’t fight. Making sure their requests are being met. Making sure they have proper meal on time which is way so hard with Calvin, he prefers to have it on his time and what he wants to eat. If he refuses whatever that was on the table or his plate, he’ll insist till the end, or till I gave up and spoon feed him Only to certain amount and he’ll surely said he can’t swallow anymore. The same food if given to Mervin, he’ll finished it a no time. I don’t even need to spoon feed Mervin.

I just wonder when will Calvin start loving his food, when will they stop fighting. When?